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Students who want to learn new experiences and situations in how to dominion their decisions, which is very important to the students who attending college. In order to be good students, they have to open their self to new ideas and adopt a new way of thinking. According to Stephen R. Covey gives up his own experiences about The Seven Habits Highly Effective People. This chapter influence me to be proactive, paradigms, and don’t be reactive. In my opinion this chapter gave me a lot of details to make my personality more success in school. I would like recommend Coveys book to all the students because I can relate and other students can also.

Covey talks about private victories are more important than public victories. I feel that was very true and mainly because you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. If you already know it yourself, other people will recognize your self-confidence and respect and admire that characteristic about you (67). It’s a belief in yourself to know that you can do it and you’re the most important person. When you know who you are and what you are honest with yourself about what you are capable of doing. It is a personal victory, which builds your self-esteem, which in turn makes you be more effective students. Your teacher or classmate, or friends will influenced you a lot. You will be able to make them feel important because you feel important yourself and they will also be better students in a sense that they are happy.

Being proactive means that you have your own ideas rather than being influenced by people, or conditions. Students who want to be proactive should stop giving up a lot of excuses to explain their fault, and they are responsible for everything they have done. According to Covey “Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditing for their behavior”(71). From my own experience, before I hadn’t read this chapter, I gave myself a lot of excuses to avoid problems and school. For example every time I was tired in the morning , then I gave myself an excuse to stay home and sleep. But when I read Coveys experience, I had learned how to respond to my school, and stop giving myself excuses. Covey said “Because we are by nature, proactive, if our lives are a function of conditioning and conditions, it is because we have chosen to empower those things to control us”(71).

Not being reactive means that you don’t blame your genes, or parents, or your environment, and don’t be influenced by others. Covey points out “Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment.

If weather is good, they feel good”(71). For example, I had friend that from same high school with me, and his name’s Jimmy. Jimmy is reactive to students in our class, he always blame his parents about his ugly face:

He believe other people say that he can’t do anything, but he never believes he can do it. And every time he loses a game, he will blame his teammates. Consequently all his teammates didn’t want to play with him anymore. After he recognizes all his friends were leaving him because he was blaming too much. In my own experience, I had been reactive before I have read Covey. As before I had worried about the things that I couldn’t do anything about it. For other examples, sometime I worry about my friends attitude because I was caring too much about what they said, and what they acted. But after I had read Covey, I had learned not to be influenced by other people. Covey argues “Proactive people have a circle of concern that is at least as big as their of influence, accepting the responsibility to use their influence affectively”(85).

In conclusion from my own opinion I had learned from Covey a lot of things. From now on I will be more proactive and pay more attention to my own situation. I will not give a lot of excuses, and stop worrying about others problem. In my own experience I would recommend Coveys book to all the students in college can read through every detail. It will help you to know more about yourself and be more responsible.